on another note....we took the girls to oakwood last night for the 4th of July. they had a blast in the space walk and on the giant inflatable slide. they had their first taste of cotton candy (abby LOVED it, izzy turned up her nose), and had a really good time running around and playing with the other kids and eating dinner (we avoided the pool because we've had two cool fronts lately and it's a bit chilly for the girls to swim). unfortunately major meltdown mode began around 8 p.m. (their normal bedtime), so we decided to head home. we put them to bed, and then D went out with his friends and I relaxed for a few hours and then went to bed myself.
i ran myself ragged while we were at oakwood. it was our first outing to a public place where we'd be away from home for several hours and the girls were in regular underwear.....i was afraid to let them determine when they should go potty, so i ended up dragging them about every 45 minutes. and because izzy wouldn't let me hold/support her on the potty, her bottom fell in and she cried (they/their tushes are so small and public potties are soooo big!). then abby was too scared to sit on it. fortunately i had their trusty kiddie potty in my car, so we brought that into the ladies' room and let them use it in there. it worked. everyone stayed dry the entire time (no accidents in public/at country club, hooray!). but i was beat. we are trying a "hands up" policy in public restrooms----where upon entry, the girls are supposed to put both hands high in the air (so as to avoid touching anything nasty). they don't quite get it yet. and until you start doing it frequently, you have no idea how gross it is to take kids into even a pretty clean public restroom. they want to touch everything!!! ahhhhhhh!!!! so gross. i am debating carrying a pack of clorox wipes with me everywhere----one more thing to stuff into my already gi-normous bag, but it might make me feel better. i don't know.
i know i need to let the girls start deciding when it's time to potty....but typically there are more accidents then. just this morning, izzy was too busy playing and having fun, and when i casually suggested they think about using the restroom, both girls blatantly ignored me. i didn't force it. and then a few minutes later izzy peed on the floor in the girls' bedroom. so frustrating. i know it's not going to magically happen overnight, but.....i just want them to be more independent about it.